“I don’t like fat chicks, T”
This is a sentence an ex actually told me. I’ll never forget it. He looked me right in the eye and said “I don’t like fat chicks, T”; (T is my nickname). Those words stung like no other; clearly, as I remember them years later.
This is a sentence an ex actually told me. I’ll never forget it. He looked me right in the eye and said “I don’t like fat chicks, T”; (T is my nickname). Those words stung like no other; clearly, as I remember them years later. It’s no secret that a woman’s weight is always a sensitive topic and for me; it’s no exception. The ironic thing about it is that for the majority of my life, I had actually been too skinny. Due to anxiety and living situations; I wasn’t able to put on weight and THAT was the issue for me. Back then I was made fun of for having “chicken legs” or for “being too boney”. In fact, I didn’t show my bare legs in public for years because of the taunting. Fast forward to years later and now I’m having the opposite issue where apparently “I’m fat”. In fact; I’m being called out for it. Let’s not forget; as we get older the metabolism slows; not to mention the fact that I didn’t feel like I was attractive to my mate even before he basically bitch slapped me with those hurtful words. Now I knew why I felt that way. In hindsight; it makes sense that for a few different reasons; during that time of my life, I put on more weight than I ever had. I just couldn’t believe he felt the need to clearly state it. Ouch.
The reason I share this particular story is to highlight that WORDS matter. Words are not “just words”. Words can affect people; in a great way or a bad way. We all must be mindful of our words because words matter. Think before you speak is a common saying but we truly should. Once you say the words; they cannot be taken back. Do not speak words of hatred and of anger. Let us speak words of positivity, of love, of empowerment. If words have the power to change lives then it’s time to speak love into the world and into those around you. Your words have the power to affect how people feel about the world, about themselves, about you. Lift others up with your words. We are all fighting enough demons and battles within our own mind; we do not need other’s pointing out our flaws and insecurities. Trust us, we know them well; inside and out. Speak what you love about people; the good you see in them; the good they are doing. Your words will affect how they feel. As the amazing Maya Angelou said “I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” Make others feel great!
What you give out you get back; it’s simply the law of attraction.
You reap what you sow.
What goes around comes around.
Karma is a bitch.
You catch the drift? Put out good intentions and loving words and good intentions and loving words will return to you. Conversely, put out bad intentions and hateful or hurtful words; hateful or hurtful words will return to you. Be the love. Be the light. Your words matter; use them wisely and for the greatest good for all.